“Don’t force it.”
Those are the three little words that God spoke to me when I was overwhelmed with trying to make everything picture perfect. Often times, I have this image in my head of how things are supposed to go, so I try to control the situation and (attempt) to make things my way. By forcing this, though, I become frustrated and disappointed, because it almost NEVER goes the way I want.
As I was starting to get in the groove with my blog, I felt this need to keep it “relevant” and post something almost everyday. Even while working a full time job and having a family, I felt like if I really wanted this to work and go somewhere, I was forcing myself to write. But what I realized, was that I was forcing something that wasn’t there. I was getting writers block, which made me think I wasn’t good enough for this. I was trying to write while I was “spending time” with my son and husband, and then getting frustrated AT THEM because I was getting distracted. I told myself in the beginning that I wasn’t going to set a “schedule” of when I was going to write. I was just going to let God speak to me, and when He did, and when I found my quiet time, THEN I could write what was on my heart.
With Oliver turning two in a week, I have had this image of how he is “supposed to be.” He needs to be talking. He needs to start potty training and have it go smoothly. He needs to do this, this, this and this…. the list goes on. So I tried forcing it on him. I have tried getting him to say “please” and “thank you” more times than I can fathom. I have tried sitting him on the toilet every time he steps in the bathroom, and he screams… EVERY time. I try forcing him to do these things, and get frustrated and become “mean mom.” But I should know by now that my son does things on HIS time. In his short little life he has shown me time and time again that he CAN do things, when I’m not up his butt and in his face trying to force him to do it.
In ministry, I have quickly learned (and should have known) that you absolutely CANNOT force Jesus on kids, or anybody for that matter. You can encourage them to keep coming to church, and do everything you can to get them there every week. You can show them the love of Jesus with your actions and attitudes. You can talk to them and keep up with their lives. You can pray and hope that one day they will CHOOSE to allow Jesus into their heart on their own. But if you try to force it, you will most likely become frustrated and disappointed, and they will have a bad image of who Jesus really is.
Letting force take control can damage what God his in store for you. It can damage your heart and mind, and make you think that what you’re doing isn’t good enough.
But don’t let it.
Don’t force it.