Joy has always been something that I’ve wanted to surround myself with. I even got it tattooed on my wrist to remind myself to “always have joy in the life God gave me.” Or at least thats what I said. But even with those 3 little letters forever marked on me, I often times forget about the joy that I so desperately WANT to have. In the midst of our chaotic everyday lives, in the trials and rough patches, even in the mountain views, I don’t always look for the joy in it all. Its so easy to get caught up in everything that’s surrounding you and forget to look at the little things. The things that make joy the home in your heart.
The other day when Drew and I were driving home from work, he made a funny, and somewhat inappropriate comment, like he usually does. But I started laughing- the laugh that you can’t help and that makes you feel good. He made the comment, “Wow, I haven’t made you laugh like that in a long time.” That really stuck with me, because he was right. We haven’t laughed together in quite some time. Our day to day lives usually consisted of work and more work, seeing each other maybe 3-4 hours a day. Even in those hours, we were both either “too tired” to do anything, bickering, or doing our own thing. We don’t get- or even attempt to make- the time for each other that we so desperately need.
I truly believe thats where my joy started to fade.
It’s one thing to “do life” together, but it’s a totally different ballgame when you actually take the time to DO LIFE together. When you sit down and talk about something other than work or the stresses of life. When you take time to do the simple, little things together, like go grocery shopping or go to a movie. A lot of times we think we need some big, planned date night to spend time with each other, when really you can have date night EVERY night, just by doing something together.
We spent almost 2 weeks painting our entire kitchen. Though there were times of arguing and wanting to pull our hair out, the end product I think did a lot for us. We spent some late nights actually together, ending with a finished product that we are both completely happy with, and that we were happy with each other for getting it done.
Just like love is a choice, joy is a choice. You have to CHOOSE, everyday, to find the joy in your life. In the little things and the big messes, there is always something to come out of it. You just have to look for it.